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14 Things That Can Ruin a First Date

So, your date didn’t go as well as you thought it would. As you fill up with a fluster of emotions trying to figure out what went wrong, perhaps this article can help shed some light. For once, your date showing up late may be considered acceptable compared to the following list of No-No’s:

TMI!. Otherwise known as Too Much Information! Let’s define, shall we? When she tells you she dresses up her cats as the characters from LOST-TMI! Voluntarily confessing you’re in therapy for whatever reason-TMI!

Talking about marriage and children. Unless you’ve picked up hints of the two of you being on the same page, refrain from just “throwing it out there!” Remember, only fools rush in!

Who Pays? “Since I paid for dinner, you pay for the movie.” Come again? Tacky at its best! Generally, a guy should pick up the tab on the first date; shows character.

Bragging. Maybe you took it a little too much to heart when your mom told you you’re the most special person in the whole world. Of course your mother referring to you as ‘special’ may not be what others have in mind. Talking too much about yourself, taking over the conversation, how much is in your piggy bank, what kind of Tonka Truck you speed in, is NOT IMPRESSIVE! Do yourself a quick favor: get over yourself!

Under-whelming. As your evil twin, “the bragger,” if you fail to deliver interesting stories or enlightening facts about yourself, your date may lose interest.

Communication…or lack thereof. Uncomfortable silence…err….what to do, what to do? Nerves can sometimes get to the best of us, but, if the conversation becomes one-sided, your date may believe you’re not interested when in fact you really are. Loosen up! Try not to sabotage a good thing.

Talking about ex’s. You’re on a date with HIM, he’s on a date with YOU-pay attention to each other, not your ex’s. Oh, and here’s a definite deal-breaker: telling your date you remind them of their ex-oh boy! In fact, try not to talk about other females or males in general. Point taken? Good!

Assuming you’ll “close the deal” by the end of the night. You’re out of luck, buddy…or buddette! Your date will feel quite disrespected if this was really your main goal for the evening.

Insulting your date. What you may see as constructive criticism, others may see as a personal attack. Rudely commenting on where in the world she found that interesting hat or ridiculing her on choosing a superficial job in fashion are unwelcome.

Treating your server poorly. This is most probably a reflection of how your date treats others in their life….be careful, this could be you!

Diverting your attention. Even if you’ve lost interest in your date (and appetite) only after finishing your salad, do respect and pay attention when your date’s talking to you. Don’t look around the room at the opposite sex or let you mind wander because you’re over it.

Answering your cell phone. Danger! Danger, Will Robinson! DO NOT BREAK THE CARDINAL RULE OF DATING. There’s nothing like showing how unimportant your date is when you say, “This’ll just take a sec!” to answer your phone or return a text. If you’re expecting an important call regarding a legitimate reason, tell your date at the beginning of you outing in order to avoid any surprises.

50 First Dates? Uh, Well, Like Maybe It’s Your Communication Skills

Why do first dates fail? It’s an interesting question because fail they do, and with alarming frequency. In my own 10-plus years of dating experience, as well as what I’ve learned through friends’ failures, I’ve seen first dates bomb for lack of “chemistry”, because the guy was more interested in getting laid than getting to know his date, or because the girl didn’t look like Jessica Alba. But of all first date disasters that I’ve been privy to, the single most common hitch was a failure to communicate.

It’s no secret that poor communication is often a key source of misunderstandings, jealousy, distance, and a host of other dysfunctional dating side-effects. But… let’s face it, when it comes to communication the rules of the road in dating etiquette are as a clear as mud. Fear not, with a few helpful hints to upgrade your messaging we’re confident your success sealing that second date will become the envy of your single friends.

Apply a filter

After an interview with Bravo’s Millionaire Matchmaker star Patti Stanger, Glamour magazine blogger, Erin Meanley, noted that “single women are so trusting that they tell too much information about themselves. They pump and dump — they baggage dump!” This is sage advice. I have a friend who fancies himself a foodie. Whenever the conversation turns to the subject of what to eat, he can’t control his urge to blurt out every fact and opinion he has on where to eat in Kyoto, why free range chicken isn’t *really* free, and what to bring to a bengali wedding banquet. It’s not hard to see how the gift of gab can be something of a curse during a first date. Burdening your date with information overload will kill any chances you have of successfully getting a second date.

It’s not an interrogation

Let’s be clear, most people don’t want to be put on the spot the first time you go out with them. If you hurl questions at your date like Katie Couric on steroids, you may find your date making a beeline for the bathroom. If your date keeps her answers brief, seems annoyed, or genuinely disinterested it means its time to cut short your line of questioning, Columbo.

Fungus is never an appropriate first date topic

Common wisdom dictates that first date conversation should never include topics like sexual prowess, ex’s, family medical history, finances, or the like. On a first date, it’s important to keep the conversation light, casual and fun. Steer clear of heavy, negative, or crass topics – it’s simply not romantic. Don’t recount every detail of your latest breakup, the best sex you’ve ever had, or your plan to get hitched before the New Year (unless you are trying to ditch your date, of course).

A good listener is a good talker with a sore throat

Let’s get right to the point… listening is a basic rule in any relationship, but on a first date it’s rule numero uno. If you don’t listen to what your date has to say, how will you know if you want a second date? (We’re giving you some credit here by assuming you care about more than what your date looks like.) Listening means really paying attention to what your date has to say, not just giving the appearance of listening all the while thinking about what color panties she’s wearing, whether his hair will recede by age 30, or what time you need to jet to hook up with your friends.

 

Asian Men – Dating Tips

If you are an Asian man dating and have had no luck or you just do not have a lot of time, you may want to try an Asian dating service or Asian internet dating. When you date by using an Asian dating agency, you can save a large amount of time. Find Asian women dating that have the same interests as you do. Skip the lost time of dating women who are not your type, do not have the same beliefs as you do, and basically who you are not looking for to spend the rest of your life with.

With Asian internet dating immediately meet single women who are also looking to date someone that is their match. Once you join an Asian internet dating site you can look at women’s profiles and photos. Easily find the woman that you have been looking for. You may want to correspond with a few women and date each of them to make sure you find the perfect match for you.

The great thing about Asian dating online is that you can e-mail each other first. Then you may talk via chat and webcam. Once you both feel comfortable you can talk on your computer’s microphone or on the telephone or cell phone. Set up a date that you both will enjoy. If she seems to like sports, set up a date that fits that situation. If she is more into romance and you are, too, set up a romantic date. Nothing too romantic as this is a first date. Perhaps a carriage ride in the park or city and then dinner afterward. This way the woman will feel safe in a public place for your first date. Always be a gentleman especially on the first date. Women love a man that has class and shows her respect.

Before going out on your date, you want to look your best. Women do pay attention to how you are dressed, your shoes, how you carry yourself, if you are confident and if your hands are well manicured. Women want a man who looks great as that means he cares about himself and he will care for her, too. Make sure your shirt and pants are wrinkle-free. Make sure your shoes are not torn or sloppy looking.

Make sure you have fresh breath. A big turn off for women is a man with bad breath. This means brushing your teeth and using mouth wash before the date. During the date check your breath to make sure it smells good. A tip to do this is to quickly and privately lick the inside of your wrist. When the dampness dries, smell your wrist. Whatever your wrist smells like is what your breath smells like. Keep mints in your pocket for bad breath emergencies.

If you like to wear cologne choose wisely. Pick a cologne you know your friends that are women like. Ask co-workers for advice. Ask your parents and sister (if you have one) what type of cologne they/she like to smell. Once you have your cologne selected use it sparingly. Some men put on so much cologne you can smell them before you even see them. They leave a path of the cologne scent that is so strong it makes people cough. Quite a few people are sensitive to perfume and cologne smells so you want to use it respectfully.

Women want a man that is confident and has the posture and presence to show this. Stand tall and walk with your head held high. Do not walk while looking down as this body language means a person is insecure.

Of course be a gentleman and open doors for her. If you go into a restaurant open the door and pull out her chair. Women want to be treated well and with manners such as this; you will be hard to resist with such manners.

Be a gentleman and do not try to attack her with kisses and/or your hands all over her during the date or at the end of the date. If you know she kisses on the first date, a kiss during and/or at the end of the date is fine. Just do not keep trying to go any further with her. Remember single Asian women want a gentleman to spend the rest of their life with not a man who is trying to get as far as he can with her. She will feel like she is not important to you and you are only out for one thing. Wait until the two of you have more dates and conversation. You have all of the time in the world to be intimate with each other.

 

First Date Safety Tips You Should Know

Are you a guy who just scored your first date with a new girl? If so, you may be excited and you should be. Although etiquette may be the very last thing on your mind, you should still consider it. If you want to score a second date, you need to make sure the first is picture perfect.

When it comes to meeting for a date, you have two options. You can pick her up or meet her at your destination. When possible, opt for a pickup. Even if you have to drive 15 minutes out of your way, do so. This gets your night started off on the right foot. If you and your date meet at the destination, offer to take her home if she took public transportation, like the bus or a taxi.

One of the most important rules of dating is to show up on time. Whether you pickup your date or meet her there, never be late. Even 5 minutes is too long to make your date wait. If you are not only interested in a second date, but a long-term relationship, show up on time. Leave early and call if you can’t avoid being late.

Even if you knew a girl before your first official date, it is still here where you will make the biggest first impression. So, make sure it is good. You must look presentable. This means wear something nice. Is your lucky t-shirt covered in stains and holed? If so, leave it at home. Do not over-dress, but never under-dress.

The quickest way to a girl’s heart on a first date is to show your interest. An easy way to do this is with eye contact. Always make eye contact with your woman. This can be hard when on a date with a beautiful girl, but it is a must. Is she talking to you? You better be looking in her eyes. This shows that you are paying attention to her, not her breasts or another girl across the room.

On a first date, politeness is important. Not only do you need to be polite to your date, but to those around you. Are you at a restaurant? Say please and thank you to your waiter and don’t start an argument or make a scene if something doesn’t go your way. Your date isn’t only gauging how you treat her, but how you treat others too.

A first date is not the time to say “I love you.” Are you absolutely smitten with your date? If so, that is good, but keep your lips sealed. It is okay to tell a girl you really like her, but leave the love word for later in the relationship. A first date does not translate into marriage, sex, or soul mates. If you try to make it, you may end the evening alone and a second date will only happen in your dreams.

If you just ended a long-term relationship, you may be feeling a wide array of emotions. You may be excited about your new date, but wondering what could of happened with your ex-girlfriend. This is okay and a natural feeling, but don’t utter a word. Past relationships should never be discussed on a first date. The moment you mention your ex-girlfriend, is the moment your first date is ruined. Your woman will only think about how she compares or if she is simply just a rebound date.

Most importantly, never assume you will get sex. Yes, some women do have sex on the first date, but not all. You do not want to pressure your date or disappoint yourself. For that reason, never assume you will get sex on the first date. Just be happy with a kiss. Your patience and understanding, should the woman want to wait, can help lead to a second date.

In short, you need to be polite and show your date respect. By doing so, you will both have a good time. In fact, your first date may lead to a second date, a third date, and possibly a long-term relationship.

 

Dating Guidelines – Elements of Successful Dating

Being prepared is one of the most important things to make successful dating. Taking a little time to plan for a date is not such a big deal. Plus, it gives you more confidence. As for getting ready for an hour or setting reservations for a table for two is great, showing up and forgetting stuff on your date is a big mistake and could end the date right then and there. Luckily, a checklist with the following things before leaving your house is sure to make a good impression.

Successful Dating Element #1: Wallet

Now, even if it is the 21st century and that gender roles between men and women have changed over the years, we all know that it is customary for the guy to pay. A purse, handbag, money, credit cards or a money clip, it is still a necessity to bring something to pay with. It may be the guy’s job to pay for the bill but it would not hurt for the girl to bring money with her, just in case.

Successful Dating Element #2: Mobile or Cellular phone

With technology so evident in our lives, bring your phone with you is a must. It not only acts as a security device for the ladies (you will never know when you need to call for help), it is important for the guys to keep constant contact with you date. This not only avoids confusion for the details of the date but also shows that you are still interested to push through with the date.

Successful Dating Element #3: Directions

No one likes a late date, not even the guys. If the guy is not picking you up, you can always opt to decide to meet up where the date will be. When discussing about the details of the date, make sure you have the directions of the place. Getting lost on your way is a time-consumer and wastes the time of both you and your date.

Successful Dating Element #4: Conversation

A key to a good date is conversation. A dull date would have nothing to say and would just be silent the rest of the night. Nobody wants awkward moments like those. Asking questions to each other is a great way to start conversations, kill dead air and lets you get to know each other a little more.

Successful Dating Element #5: Condoms

Yeah, that is right. Condoms. This is both for girls and guys. Even if some girls do not believe in sleeping on the first date, you can never tell. All of us have urges and, sometimes, we cannot control them. That is all right, you are human. You are not perfect. If you are going to, at least be safe!

Successful Dating Element #5: Humour and Personality

A big factor of the whole date even taking place is because the person finds you interesting. Say a joke, make them laugh, showing yourself is important, it makes the date enjoyable. Being bland and boring does not get you anywhere. A little afraid? Relax! Do not let you being scared ruin the date. It is all part of it. Also, bringing a bad mood to the date ruins it. It may lose the chance for a next one.